okay, this entry is more into the special person in my life rather than talking about me (or my silly philosophies). dedicated to my mum... (but hope that she wont read this :P)
here goes...
when was the last time u had someone who's there to wake u up for classes?
the last time someone close cooked something for u?
or how about,
when u're trying to get some sleep but someone is sitting by your bed talking to you non-stop?? someone who never fails to try to make u go to bed early?
haha, for me that will be my mum. someone who i'll always love, someone dearest to my heart. (dad u as well)
she was there by my side when i had 13 stitches being sewn on my forehead after i headbutted the fish tank.
she was there when i took my first x-ray after i swollowed a fish bone. (which actually was never there)
she was there when i went to my primary school the first couple of days and was there to fetch me home.
well, to some of you, this may be some mushy stuff and if u do find it that way i would kindly ask u to stop reading if its not your "style".
anyways back to the point and that is, she was there in those terrifying moments in my life. (yes, especially the primary school part)
and mum, if u still remember my blog address and happen to read this, i wanna thank you for being there.
and i would love for u to be there to see me succeed in life.
i honestly do.
anyways this is just a mushy side of me la.
haha.
den out
anyways, this is suppose to be on Mother's day the 13th of May, the second sunday of May 2007. well i'm 2 sundays early but what the heck.
haha.
just typed it early.
Monday, April 30, 2007
Me being - disgusted by society
well. today, i was waiting for my practical driving lesson to start and i was like 30mins early so i sat down somewhere near the mrt station and started playing with my psp.
before long, i realise there's this visibility challenged dude walking towards this atm machine. and he actually bumped into this lady. at first i thought that the guy wanted to molest the girl, but then i saw that he can't see. he was walking in circles and literally walking into the wall.
then, there was this 2 girls sitting near me who started to laugh at the dude. man, i cant tell you how disgusted i was with their attitude. they actually thought that it was funny.
i kept my psp and prepared to walk towards the guy to help guide him, but then he managed to find help before i got to him.
message to yall out there. imagine you were in the position of the dude. would u like people to laugh at you in a corner when you're in need of help??
i really regretted not being able to get to him in time to help him.
the other thing about society i really dislike is the way men has set upon themselves "the rat race". everywhere you go, its all about the S11.. put them together and you get $$.
it is something that we men would kill each other for. something that men would lie cheat and steal for.
and its rather disgusting to think about it.
before long, i realise there's this visibility challenged dude walking towards this atm machine. and he actually bumped into this lady. at first i thought that the guy wanted to molest the girl, but then i saw that he can't see. he was walking in circles and literally walking into the wall.
then, there was this 2 girls sitting near me who started to laugh at the dude. man, i cant tell you how disgusted i was with their attitude. they actually thought that it was funny.
i kept my psp and prepared to walk towards the guy to help guide him, but then he managed to find help before i got to him.
message to yall out there. imagine you were in the position of the dude. would u like people to laugh at you in a corner when you're in need of help??
i really regretted not being able to get to him in time to help him.
the other thing about society i really dislike is the way men has set upon themselves "the rat race". everywhere you go, its all about the S11.. put them together and you get $$.
it is something that we men would kill each other for. something that men would lie cheat and steal for.
and its rather disgusting to think about it.
Sunday, April 29, 2007
Me being - blogging bout positive stuff.
being the optimist. being someone who looks at the positive side of pictures.
its something that i really love to be.
blogs are for people to write down basically 'stuff'.
and at this very moment, to tell u ladies and gentlemen the truth, i'm not having the bestest time of my life. been struggling with issues. well, in fact who isnt?
therefore i guess, i shouldnt be blogging about problems cos if everyone is having their own probs and i shouldnt add on to the mass.
thats my belief.
well. what i'd like to say is that, never focus on your problems as you face them. because u're the one who'll end up be the casualty. instead, look at how to solve it. look at the other side of your problem. look at the ending and work towards it.
i'd hope that all of you will improve from here.
problems are tests. you can cry over them when they hurt, you can feel the lousiest.
but after that, stand up strong.
what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.
peace to all of you peps.
its something that i really love to be.
blogs are for people to write down basically 'stuff'.
and at this very moment, to tell u ladies and gentlemen the truth, i'm not having the bestest time of my life. been struggling with issues. well, in fact who isnt?
therefore i guess, i shouldnt be blogging about problems cos if everyone is having their own probs and i shouldnt add on to the mass.
thats my belief.
well. what i'd like to say is that, never focus on your problems as you face them. because u're the one who'll end up be the casualty. instead, look at how to solve it. look at the other side of your problem. look at the ending and work towards it.
i'd hope that all of you will improve from here.
problems are tests. you can cry over them when they hurt, you can feel the lousiest.
but after that, stand up strong.
what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.
peace to all of you peps.
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Me being - friends with turistas in KL
well, tribute to my friends who are going overseas tomorrow.
they're going to KL to enjoy, wish i could join them but i have other committments back here at home.
i'll be praying for them when they go on their trip.
pray that they will be blessed with fun and excitement and most importantly a safe and peaceful journey.
enjoy yourselves before this phase of our life moves along.
before the government take away our freedom. and whatever shit. haha.
guys, hafiz, shahreen and haja.
all the best in your journey.
have all the fun you can have and also more importantly a safe one.
be more street-smart guys. haha.
and dont forget my souveniers.
anyways i'm thinking of maybe organizing a chalet or a stayout sometime before july. before NS.
do comment to give ideas.
take care guys!!
i wont miss you though.
haha.
they're going to KL to enjoy, wish i could join them but i have other committments back here at home.
i'll be praying for them when they go on their trip.
pray that they will be blessed with fun and excitement and most importantly a safe and peaceful journey.
enjoy yourselves before this phase of our life moves along.
before the government take away our freedom. and whatever shit. haha.
guys, hafiz, shahreen and haja.
all the best in your journey.
have all the fun you can have and also more importantly a safe one.
be more street-smart guys. haha.
and dont forget my souveniers.
anyways i'm thinking of maybe organizing a chalet or a stayout sometime before july. before NS.
do comment to give ideas.
take care guys!!
i wont miss you though.
haha.
Thursday, April 19, 2007
Me being - THE MAN...
Some relationships end with fighting. Some end with crying. Some end with sex. Some end with verbal insults (or dishes) being thrown at sound-barrier-breaking speeds. Whatever the case, break-ups can be uglier than some Dancing with the Stars performances. Let's face it: some relationships aren't meant to be, so a break-up averts a bigger disaster. So when the Love Boat hits the iceberg, who handles it better? My answer: Women. Several studies show that men experience more depression, distress, and anxiety after break-ups than women do. Men might like to come across as being tougher than overcooked steak after a breakup, but the truth is that they're actually more the consistency of jelly. Believe me-I see the letters of hundreds of men desperate for advice on how to win their ex back. Here's why some men come undone during a breakup:
Men Mask Their Pain
When a guy is dumped, his first reaction is: I'll show her. How he sometimes does it: With a couple pitchers and a night out with the guys. In fact, 26 percent of men say that the dumped party should get drunk with the guys after a break-up, according to a Men's Health online survey. But those beer swillers are actually in the minority: 36 percent say a guy should look at his new ex, smile, and thank her. The thing is, both of those reactions are exactly the same thing-masks for their true feelings. They can't deal with being hurt, or angry, or bummed. It's not until after they get past their initial reaction that men actually mourn the loss of the relationship. Women are more likely to cry soon after the breakup, and they're also more likely to use straight talk when ending a relationship, studies find. So women face their relationship blues head on, and get them out of their systems earlier. Many men tend to repress their reaction, so it lingers like basement mold.
Men Have Fewer Friends
One of the reasons why women can get over sour relationships faster than the guys they breaks up with is that women have an amazing network of people to latch on to. Research indicates that men depend on romantic relationships for emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to family and female friends to satisfy those needs. Mothers, sisters, friends, hairdressers, cabbies, whoever-the more times she tells the story about what a jerk he was, the better she's going to feel. A man, on the other hand, stays corked. Often he shrugs off a break-up with a shoulder shrug, shoots a Jager shot, and tries to convince himself that he's not upset. That is, until about six months later, at 1AM after the fourth pitcher, when he confesses to his buds that all he ever wanted is for Janelle to take him back.
Men Hate Starting Over
After the break-up, a man may feel an initial surge of excitement of future prospects-the women he's yet to meet. But after three, four, or two dozen dates, he realizes that it's going to take a long time to reach the level of comfort he had with his ex. Research conducted at Carnegie Mellon University suggests that women adjust better to the end of a relationship because they've already given consideration to the possibility of a break-up, whereas men are typically unprepared for it. While that sense of emotional security can't be the only reason to stay together, it also makes him realize that he was very lucky to have a woman like her. Meanwhile, she's already moved on. And perhaps the only time he lets his guard down enough to admit the emotional truth is when he's drunk dialing her. And that's too little, way too late.
Men Idealize the Dating Game
Many breakups are a knee-jerk reaction to what men perceive as stagnation: He's bored with the same restaurants, the same petty arguments, the repetitive sex. Once he's back on the prowl, he thinks, he'll be bedding 10s and living the high life. After the break-up, however, he quickly realizes that the singles scene isn't all champagne and half-naked strangers--it's work. Instead of the exciting bar scene, he finds that he misses the intimacy of his past relationship. Studies show that women consistently outscore men on measures of social, sexual, and intellectual intimacy--and women are often quicker than men to realize that intimacy provides the foundation of a lasting relationship, not the sexual thrills.
Have your own theories about who handles break-ups better, or a good story to share. Weigh in here.
Men Mask Their Pain
When a guy is dumped, his first reaction is: I'll show her. How he sometimes does it: With a couple pitchers and a night out with the guys. In fact, 26 percent of men say that the dumped party should get drunk with the guys after a break-up, according to a Men's Health online survey. But those beer swillers are actually in the minority: 36 percent say a guy should look at his new ex, smile, and thank her. The thing is, both of those reactions are exactly the same thing-masks for their true feelings. They can't deal with being hurt, or angry, or bummed. It's not until after they get past their initial reaction that men actually mourn the loss of the relationship. Women are more likely to cry soon after the breakup, and they're also more likely to use straight talk when ending a relationship, studies find. So women face their relationship blues head on, and get them out of their systems earlier. Many men tend to repress their reaction, so it lingers like basement mold.
Men Have Fewer Friends
One of the reasons why women can get over sour relationships faster than the guys they breaks up with is that women have an amazing network of people to latch on to. Research indicates that men depend on romantic relationships for emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to family and female friends to satisfy those needs. Mothers, sisters, friends, hairdressers, cabbies, whoever-the more times she tells the story about what a jerk he was, the better she's going to feel. A man, on the other hand, stays corked. Often he shrugs off a break-up with a shoulder shrug, shoots a Jager shot, and tries to convince himself that he's not upset. That is, until about six months later, at 1AM after the fourth pitcher, when he confesses to his buds that all he ever wanted is for Janelle to take him back.
Men Hate Starting Over
After the break-up, a man may feel an initial surge of excitement of future prospects-the women he's yet to meet. But after three, four, or two dozen dates, he realizes that it's going to take a long time to reach the level of comfort he had with his ex. Research conducted at Carnegie Mellon University suggests that women adjust better to the end of a relationship because they've already given consideration to the possibility of a break-up, whereas men are typically unprepared for it. While that sense of emotional security can't be the only reason to stay together, it also makes him realize that he was very lucky to have a woman like her. Meanwhile, she's already moved on. And perhaps the only time he lets his guard down enough to admit the emotional truth is when he's drunk dialing her. And that's too little, way too late.
Men Idealize the Dating Game
Many breakups are a knee-jerk reaction to what men perceive as stagnation: He's bored with the same restaurants, the same petty arguments, the repetitive sex. Once he's back on the prowl, he thinks, he'll be bedding 10s and living the high life. After the break-up, however, he quickly realizes that the singles scene isn't all champagne and half-naked strangers--it's work. Instead of the exciting bar scene, he finds that he misses the intimacy of his past relationship. Studies show that women consistently outscore men on measures of social, sexual, and intellectual intimacy--and women are often quicker than men to realize that intimacy provides the foundation of a lasting relationship, not the sexual thrills.
Have your own theories about who handles break-ups better, or a good story to share. Weigh in here.
Me being - Forgiven
Let me share a little story to you people out there...
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck.
To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment.
When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.
Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. FORGIVE AND FORGET. Love one and all.
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." -- Mother Teresa
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck.
To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment.
When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.
Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. FORGIVE AND FORGET. Love one and all.
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." -- Mother Teresa
Friday, April 13, 2007
Me being - emo
Here are some of the phrases i would like to remind myself sometimes when my problems pull me down.
"its not lettin e feelin go, its jus holdin on till e time is right. the longer i miss u, e sweeter it feels holdin u."
"lets not face the problem head on, it will not help you at all. instead, why dont you look at the solutions instead??"
i'll be updating it from time to time when i have the inspiration.
if you guys have any nice phrases do add to the comment box and i'll post it as soon as i see it.
peace :)
"its not lettin e feelin go, its jus holdin on till e time is right. the longer i miss u, e sweeter it feels holdin u."
"lets not face the problem head on, it will not help you at all. instead, why dont you look at the solutions instead??"
i'll be updating it from time to time when i have the inspiration.
if you guys have any nice phrases do add to the comment box and i'll post it as soon as i see it.
peace :)
Sunday, April 8, 2007
Me being - Troubled
troubles troubles troubles.
who doesnt have them? mean, at one point or another they will be invade your peaceful lives and make u wanna tear your hair out.
or they may just make your hair turn all white.
well. but people, the main point is not to focus in your problems. but instead look at how you try to overcome them.
and yes, sometimes there are problems that there's no solution to, no answer that can solve.
this is when god comes in. for he is someone who i can find peace in, someone who is there willing to hold my hand and guide me through my problems.
but back to the topic.
everyone will definitely find an outlet. be it watching tv, crying, playing games etc.
but i feel that this are all temporary outlets. at the end of the day, u'll sleep. and when u wake up, the troubles will haunt you again.
therefore, i feel that people should face their problems. not to brood over it. but to face it. and face the fact that sometimes things are just the way they are and there's not a bloody thing you can do about it.
but this are all words. its all easier to say than to do.
which is why i'm struggling with the way i'm living now. but i am learning to accept things.
are you??
who doesnt have them? mean, at one point or another they will be invade your peaceful lives and make u wanna tear your hair out.
or they may just make your hair turn all white.
well. but people, the main point is not to focus in your problems. but instead look at how you try to overcome them.
and yes, sometimes there are problems that there's no solution to, no answer that can solve.
this is when god comes in. for he is someone who i can find peace in, someone who is there willing to hold my hand and guide me through my problems.
but back to the topic.
everyone will definitely find an outlet. be it watching tv, crying, playing games etc.
but i feel that this are all temporary outlets. at the end of the day, u'll sleep. and when u wake up, the troubles will haunt you again.
therefore, i feel that people should face their problems. not to brood over it. but to face it. and face the fact that sometimes things are just the way they are and there's not a bloody thing you can do about it.
but this are all words. its all easier to say than to do.
which is why i'm struggling with the way i'm living now. but i am learning to accept things.
are you??
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Me being - a supporter of a relegating team.
When i ask, what is ur favourite English premier league team?
and there will definitely be people going with all the Manchester Uniteds, Chelseas, Arsenals and Liverpools. well not that i blame them. i mean, who wont like a winning team right?
well do u wanna know what's my favourite soccer team??
make a guess..
give up??
Its - West Ham United.
dont ask why though. haha. cos it will be like asking u why u love your parents or something like that. its just a inexpressable feeling. at least to me it is.
well, the hammers were on a 8 game losing streak or something like that, the worse was being up 2 - 0 then 3 - 2 and finally losing the game 4 - 3 to the spurs.
then they started winning. in the first win in months, they scrapped a 1 - 0 win. but then they won again. Hammers may still be in the relagation zone, but i believe they are able to scrap through and let the likes of Wigan and Sheffield United drop down to the lower league.
go go go Hammers GO!!! all the way!
yours truely,
Den
and there will definitely be people going with all the Manchester Uniteds, Chelseas, Arsenals and Liverpools. well not that i blame them. i mean, who wont like a winning team right?
well do u wanna know what's my favourite soccer team??
make a guess..
give up??
Its - West Ham United.
dont ask why though. haha. cos it will be like asking u why u love your parents or something like that. its just a inexpressable feeling. at least to me it is.
well, the hammers were on a 8 game losing streak or something like that, the worse was being up 2 - 0 then 3 - 2 and finally losing the game 4 - 3 to the spurs.
then they started winning. in the first win in months, they scrapped a 1 - 0 win. but then they won again. Hammers may still be in the relagation zone, but i believe they are able to scrap through and let the likes of Wigan and Sheffield United drop down to the lower league.
go go go Hammers GO!!! all the way!
yours truely,
Den
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